What I have in common with other women who are doing big things with an otherwise ordinary salary and ordinary life circumstances is focus, a little creativity, and drive.
I’ve had an incredible year so far! I’ve traveled to Trinidad and taught my first international youth leadership workshop, lobbied for education on Capitol Hill in Washington, D.C., celebrated my 2nd year as a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., met Grammy-award winning reggae/dance hall artist, Beenie Man, in an airport in Miami, had an amazing experience facilitating a workshop at Community College of Philadelphia’s first annual “Women’s Leadership Conference”, visited the south western region of the United States for the first time, ate dinner with Susan Taylor, former editor-in-chief of Essence Magazine, with the partnership of a wonderful non-profit organization in Philadelphia, organized one of the first ever free mobile app development workshops for kids in my city, and was accepted into the post grad-fellowship program of my professional dreams.
And as incredibly blessed as I feel, I know that there are other women out there who are having equally as amazing of a year as, if not more than, mine.
I know this because for the past several months I’ve been spending a lot of time with some pretty amazing women in my sorority, sister/friend circle, and networking group who have phenomenal things going on right now from job promotions, to launching new businesses and PAYING clients, to being appointed to prestigious positions in the Mayor’s Office in one of the largest cities on the east coast, to making exciting international travel plans. Most of these women are at the top of their game and I’m uber inspired!
While I certainly don’t consider myself to be an over-sharer on social media, I’m not shy about posting meaningful moments or cool places I travel to. And yes, I’m that person who posts pictures of my food. One of my hobbies is posting food reviews on Yelp. I just can’t help but share the magic of good cuisine. Follow my reviews!
But naturally, because I so freely share this part of my life with my friends and family, my lifestyle tends to draw questions like…
“How can you afford to travel so much?”
“How do you balance work and traveling for pleasure?”
“How do you find out about these opportunities?”
The list goes on. So I thought I’d write this post to answer some of these questions so that hopefully you will see that if this is the lifestyle you desire, it’s totally do-able. And what I have in common with other women who are doing big things with an otherwise ordinary salary and life circumstances is focus, a little creativity, and drive. Below are some of my answers to these questions along with a few tips on how to plan your next getaway.
“I think, therefore I am.” Descartes said it best. The way we view our circumstances will most certainly impact our outcomes because it determines how much energy we’re willing to expend to pursue opportunities that will change our lives. When I first started my career I told myself that all I had time for was work. I rarely took vacation, hated taking sick days, and left work late every day. Now a huge part of that was because I genuinely enjoyed the work that I was doing. But somewhere around year five I grew restless for something more. While I was beginning to reap the benefits of all the work that I had done in terms of promotions, more money, more responsibility, and flexibility to choose my own projects, I felt so limited. And especially after my position with the organization had been eliminated due to downsizing, my perspective shifted drastically. I realized that if someone were to ask me where I wanted to be in 2,3, or 5 years, I didn’t have an answer because I hadn’t spent as much time being introspective and engaging in meaningful activities outside of the work place to even plan for the next phase of my life. So I decided to take a leap…
I booked a trip to South America. Taking advantage of a local community college’s study abroad program, I signed up for a 10-day language and cultural immersion trip to Peru. Even though I gave myself a thousand reasons why I didn’t have the time to go, I threw all of them out and made this trip a priority. I went. I saw. I learned. And my office and staff went on functioning without me. Huge sigh of relief. After that point, travel became a high priority for me. I know that I can’t do it all the time (because at some point you do have to actually earn your paycheck, haha!), but it’s a requirement that at least once or twice a month I travel somewhere new locally, and once a year, somewhere internationally. And I don’t just “do it for the Vine.” I do it for sanity. I do it for clarity. I do it so that I can continue to grow and develop as a human being and gain new perspectives. By doing that I’ve been able to meet new people who I have stayed connected with and have learned about opportunities in other states or cities to use and develop my skill sets. My world has grown so much larger than Pennsylvania and my beloved East coast. And it was all because I decided to finally start taking my life plan seriously by actually making a life plan…
In 2014 I joined a professional women’s group based in Philadelphia called The Learning Curve Woman. The focus of that group was to help us, through monthly exercises, articulate our personal and professional goals and develop action steps to achieving them. Each month we would meet and talk about those goals, discuss our progress, and make suggestions and provide resources to help us in our quest towards achieving them. There’s something about writing down your goals that really gives them power. Why else do you think written documents are more legally-binding than any other kind of agreement that you can make with someone? Once you commit something to paper, you’ve declared something. You’ve put something out into the world that you can never take back.
So I wrote a five-year life plan and then a vision board and put everything on there that I felt that I could reasonably accomplish each year. So that helped me to be more strategic about the opportunities I sought out and what I did with my resources each month, realizing that I don’t have unlimited resources and time. Now for those of you who may have an aversion to plans because you hate feeling like you’ve committed to something only to not be able to follow through, here’s a tip. Plans can always change. I constantly have to re-evaluate my plan based on how my circumstances may have changed. But rather than throwing it out the window and doing nothing, I tweak and make different moves. That’s the beauty of a plan. Think of it as your test environment.
Before I get too long-winded here, I’ll stop. But I hope that if you take nothing else away from this post, that you at least remember that all that you dream is possible. You only have to have the creativity and passion to put yourself out there and use what you do have to get what you want. It’s called investment.